Excuses Excuses Excuses

There I was, listening to my girlfriends make excuse after excuse for the boys they liked when I was hit with a realization: They could do so much better! We should never have to put up with guys who run us through the ringer the way we do. I mean, what is it about these young men that we admire so ardently that we are willing to overlook the insane pile of shit they push us into every time. Then I started looking at the guys themselves and realized where the problem was. Us; we were the connection. Our female desire to be admired and adored, the joy brought to us by some silly boy making us feel like we’re the most special, important person in their lives. It’s the whole reason we put up with their stupid games or idiotic friends, the incessant video game playing or their absolute cluelessness about anything to do with us. Forget my birthday? It’s alright, I should have reminded you. Can’t remember what my favorite color is? Well, you did only ask once and that was a long time ago. Accidentally ordered something I’m allergic to? Yeah, I suppose I can go without dinner for tonight. Why do we do it? We can guarantee we would never forget information like that but we convince ourselves the man’s brain simply isn’t detail oriented like that. False. If it were really important to him he would remember even the most insignificant detail. I’ve had my father learn about different types of shoes to the point to where he can tell what a ballroom dancing shoe looks like and can describe a t-strap sandal. I’ve had guys who can remember everything from my favorite type of schmear and bagel combo, or my Starbucks order. I’ve also had guys ask me for my name every time we meet for years and people who profess their undying love to me without being able to recall my last name, age or hometown. It just goes to show you have to actually search through all the stupidity and momentary emotional flings for the few who actually care. Because, believe me, they’re out there, and they’re so worth it that I can’t imagine anyone who can go through the experience of dating one without instantly dismissing the “forgetful” behavior of the rest. Men are the best actors around, they can fake an entire relationship for years until something “better” comes along. Now, repeat after me, if he cares he’ll show it; even in the little things he does every day. So no more off the ‘he must have forgotten to turn on his ringer’ or ‘he’s just so busy with his work’ and don’t even get me started on ‘he’s got a lot on his mind theses days’. A man thinks about sex approximately twenty times each hour. Therefore I can guarantee he has thought about you and if he’s thinking about you the you can bet your ass he’s gonna do something about it. If he isn’t texting you back then he’s got some other girl on his mind for 2/3 of his waking day. And a guy is never too busy to chase down the one he wants so don’t even try talking yourself into that one either. Moral of the story? If he wants to be with you? He will make it happen so stop trying so hard and if you find yourself making excuses for him? Kick him to the curb like last week’s smelly leftovers. You can do better than someone who doesn’t put you first. Always.